If you like someone and they’re not married or dating someone else and you are pretty sure they won’t murder you, tell them.
If you are having problems in your relationship, fix it in these four simple steps!
Step one: Open your mouth and say words to your partner that explain that there’s a problem and that you are concerned.
Step two: Listen with your ears to what they say in response.
Step three: Take what they say into account and formulate a calm rebuttal.
Step four: Repeat as necessary.
If you can’t take those four steps with your partner, find a new partner. If you can’t take those four steps with your partner because of hearing loss or vocal problems or other barriers, communicate your problems in the way you usually communicate other things. If you can’t take those four steps with your partner because they live in space or are fictional, I get it. Long distance can be hard.
Say you make a mistake. Open your mouth and say, “I am sorry for making that mistake.” Sometimes that can help. Sometimes it doesn’t. If you stabbed someone, likely it won’t help and you should probably be in jail. Don’t get mad if you’re not forgiven right away. Especially if you stabbed someone. Sometimes, like stab wounds, relationships need time to heal. Once you apologize, ask what you can do to fix the situation and try not to do it again!
What if you don’t want a relationship? That’s okay. There’s nothing wrong with you.
If someone does not want to be with you, say, “Okay” and then leave them alone.
It’s okay to take time apart if you or your partner is very upset. Just don’t go full Ross Geller from Friends about it. Actually, this whole article can be summed up by doing exactly the opposite of everything Ross Geller said or thought or responded. Kid wants to play with a Barbie? Cool! Want to own a monkey illegally? Probably not your best idea. You make a mistake? Own up to it. You’re angry? Don’t scream, take time to calm down. You want to sneak up on people and scare them? Not your most likeable move. Date an ex student of yours? REALLY ROSS? REALLY? The only thing he ever did right was like dinosaurs.